The Truth about BDSM Safeword

Although BDSM revolves around the context of punishment and discipline, using safeword seems to be an important element of the play, which mostly benefits the submissive role.A safeword is simply a word discussed by both parties in a BDSM play. This is done in order to stop the submissive if he or she reaches the limitation of slavery. This allows the “slave” to quit following whatever the “master” commands. You might be surprised to know that if you continue to dominate after using the safeword, it can be considered as a form of abuse; in the same way of forcing someone to have sex with you even if that someone doesn’t want to.

Safeword is part of BDSM value where it allows people to not go overboard on the subject of punishing and being punish

ed. Now, there are different forms of safeword that you can follow.

The Traffic Light

Submissives do have different ranks when it comes to using safeword. Just like the traffic light; green simply implies “go on”, yellow means “slow down” and red means “stop!”  As the dominant, since you’re the one driving the scene, you should know your driving basics well.

Makes sense right?

Non-Verbal Appeal

There are times when the submissive has no freedom to talk. This may be because there is something stuffed in their mouth. Therefore, surrender signals must be taken into considerations such as ringing a bell, dropping a ball or snapping of fingers.

Dropping the Character

When you think the play has already reached the borderline, you can simply drop out of your character when you

can’t handle it anymore. Instead of addressing the dominant as “master”, you simply call them by their first name. This gives them an indication that you’re already giving up.

However, even if safeword exist, it doesn’t mean that you should also stop having a satisfying sex. Remember, BDSM is a form of role playing. It doesn’t mean that when you quit from the scene, you also quit having sex.

The message of safeword simply tells us that we should not abuse our body. It’s okay to experiment on your sexual activity, but be sure you know your limitations. Role playing must be all about pleasure and not torture!